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ADDvisor Volume 4 2002 Index
Number 9 May 1, 2002
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KEEPING TRACK OF YOUR TEENAGER
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ADDitude magazine is an excellent resource for
all individuals with ADHD (www.additudemag.com
to subscribe).
In a recent issue about
teenagers with ADHD one article by Kim Watts,
addressed keeping track of your teenager. As all
parents of teenagers know, particularly ones with
teenagers who have ADHD, keeping track of your
teenager is a daunting, but very important task.
1. Cell Phones - Teenagers love cell phones.
If your ADHD teenager can keep track of their
cell phone, this may be a helpful tool.
Carefully select a calling plan that has free
nights and weekends as this is when it will be
used the most to check in. You could also
look into a plan that allows free calling
between family cell phones.
Another good option is the pre-paid plan that limits talk
time to what has been paid for, to reign in the
most impulsive teens. Set up very clear rules of
use before the phone is purchased (e.g.
the phone must always be left on and answered
when they are out with their friends) and stick
to them after the phone is in use. If the rules
are violated, spending a few weekend nights
at home should be motivating enough to get back
to following the prescribed rules.
The down side? When your
teen call and tells you they are at the coffee
shop they may really be at a party.
2. Pagers and Two-Way Text Messengers -
This option is particularly good for parents
who can’t make or receive personal calls at
work. You really need two of these for them to be
useful. The Motorola Talkabout T900 is
one good choice. Since the messenger is email
based, messages can be sent or received via the
Internet or another pager. It can also be
programmed with reminders and alerts (like
taking medication or going to practice) and it
can be set to vibrate so it doesn’t disturb
others.
3. A newer and more controversial method of
tracking your teen is a Global Positioning
System. It will track your teens whereabouts as
long as it is in the same place they are. The new
“Digital Angel” can be worn like a wristwatch.
Should you tape it under the floor mat in the
trunk of their car? We’ll let you decide.
4. Finally, there are a number of non-technological
interventions that can be of help. Having clearly
defined and consistently enforced rules from a
young age is important. The longer this
is in place the more helpful it will be.
Consistently enforcing rules about
where your teen will be and checking up on them
is very important as well. If
your teen is supposed to be at the movies once in
a while check the parking lot to see if the car
they are riding in is there. If it isn’t,
clarify this with them and let them know if that
happens again there will be an immediate consequence.
There will be a hundred excuses and protests but
stick to your rules. Immediate consequences for
rule violations and lavish praise and rewards
for rule following are extremely important.
Know your teen’s friends and communicate with
their parents.
CONTACT INFORMATION
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Alan R. Graham, Ph.D.
Bill Benninger, Ph.D.
ADDvisor.com
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Email: Alan@ADDvisor.com
Bill@ADDvisor.com
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